(365 Day 243)
But, I also appreciate boundaries: physical, emotional, and intellectual. Once in a while, I meet someone with no sense of self. Or rather an enlarged sense of self that includes everyone around them, along with their thoughts, personality, and abilities. As if the people around them were created as tools or supply, ready to be stamped with “Mine” for later use.
But, I was made for someone else, first:
“all things were created by him, and for him.” Colossians 1:16
and Isaiah 43:7 “… for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yes, I have made him.”
I was made for God and if I let that knowledge guide my life, my role in relationships falls into place. I don’t overstep, and knowing how close is close enough becomes clear.
If I enter each situation or relationship with no personal agenda or expectations, I keep myself in check and can enjoy whatever comes from it. I can appreciate people for who they are and not try to incorporate them into whatever space in my life or organization I deem them made for.
Things grow naturally, unforced, with respect. No designs, no schemes.
I don’t supply for everyone anymore. Sometimes I remove myself. And not only do I think it’s healthy, it’s a kindness.